Saturday, February 7, 2009

Who is South Africa’s First Lady to be?

Polygamy. The invisible elephant in the room.

I loved this article when I saw it. We are all very nice hypocrites, (forgive me fellow Africans), and I love to observe us squirming in this hypocrisy.

I grew up in a huge (err, moderately big), polygamous family. While being taught that ‘monogamy’ was the way, I was having all this sensory overload with the reality of polygamy. Fact.

I have always been amused at the things which are out there in the open- which are un-mentionable. Case in point, my sexuality at the moment. Seems my father knows, but he insists that I must have at least one child. Doesn’t mind whether boy or girl. I was incredulous- he was demanding a football team before, to ‘make the clan big’, just like he had done, so why one child now?

But that is digressing. A tale from the South of Africa…. and, for my anonymous self, forgive me if I will laugh my head off.
Why the hell don’t we embrace our heritage of polygamy? Just read here, of South Africa’s big men…


RW Johnson: The South African President's harem

Posted: February 06, 2009, 11:00 AM by NP Editor
RW Johnson, South Africa

The ongoing row in the South African press over President Kgalema Motlanthe’s complicated love life has brought out into the open a subject that much of the country’s ruling black elite would rather keep hidden. Motlanthe, 59, is estranged from his wife, has a steady 45-year-old mistress and a 24-year-old, now heavily pregnant, lover. The African National Congress (ANC) spokesman, Carl Niehaus, insists that media attention is an invasion of privacy, but South African journalists have proven underwhelmed by this response.

Only a few weeks ago, Niehaus issued a statement denouncing as “lies” reports that the ANC leader (and, doubtless, South Africa’s future president), Jacob Zuma, was about to marry a fifth wife. When the reports were quickly proved true, Niehaus hurriedly insisted that Zuma’s behaviour, though “in line with African custom and tradition,” was a private matter. Still, South African journalists want to know: Who exactly is our First Lady? In particular, which of Zuma’s five wives (he is currently courting a sixth) will be the First Lady at his presidential inauguration in April?

“What you’re really looking at here is a collision of cultures which has been going on ever since the first missionaries landed at the Cape,” says sociologist Laurence Schlemmer. “To an extraordinary extent, the missionaries managed to associate the Christian ideal of monogamy with high social status and modernity.”

Indeed, Zuma is unusual in his frank acknowledgement of his own polygamy. In the eyes of many educated Africans, this is a shameful sign of his cultural backwardness — that, as former president Thabo Mbeki put it, Zuma is still a traditional Zulu peasant at heart. All educated Africans publicly deplore the ever-expanding harems maintained by the Swazi and Zulu kings. But among less-educated Africans — Zuma’s natural followers — polygamy is far more easily accepted.

Stanley Mogoba, former president of the Pan Africanist Congress, has said that “virtually none of the African National Congress leadership have normal and stable family lives. There are multiple but hidden wives and mistresses, ex-wives, unacknowledged and hidden children, every imaginable sort of arrangement. Sometimes, they seem almost to turn themselves inside out trying to be or appear what they are really not.”

Thus, officially, Nelson Mandela has been serially monogamous with three consecutive wives. But it is no secret that, at least when he was young, he was a philanderer on a large scale, and there are persistent rumours of illegitimate children. Mbeki was also known to be a ladies man on an almost industrial scale. The accusation could hardly be denied, but drawing attention to it was impermissible, especially since Mbeki was haunted by notions that the AIDS epidemic had confirmed stereotypes of lustful and sexually irresponsible African male behaviour. Similarly, neither Motlanthe nor Zuma welcomes questions about, or even attention being paid to, their marital lives.

This anomalous situation is compounded by the fact that although polygamy is legal in South Africa and homophobia common, the South African constitution is one of the world’s most progressive in its acknowledgement and championing of gay rights and gender equality. Feminists have won legal battles over inheriting property — even though in African customary law a widow and all her chattels belong to her late husband’s family — and have angrily denounced polygamy as a form of female subordination.

But even such feminist advances have their own contradictions: When Joe Modise, the notoriously corrupt former defence minister, died, his wife asserted her right to inherit his considerable wealth. The trouble was that so did his regular mistress. A battle royal ensued.

It is hardly surprising, then, that the black elite are trying to keep the subject of polygamy out of the press. It brings to light too much embarrassment and anxiety about what constitutes “respectable” behaviour.

Still, the question remains: Who is South Africa’s First Lady?

5 comments:

Wildeyearnings said...

Nice article GUG!

Polygamy, greed, corruption, genocide, gender based violence etc.. just some recurring themes that African leaders conveniently forget to address and instead focus on 'eradicating homosexuality'.

Priorities, priorities...

spiralx said...

I don't think there's a political party or leader today that doesn't conveniently sweep unpalatable truths under the carpet for political reasons. Africa and the Third World are just more obviously blatant about it!

Islam recognises that a polygamist system exists, and simply trims the wife number down to two. And why not? As long as each (and their children) are looked after properly?

Maybe black African leaders should stop feeling ashamed, and regularise the situation. (Though of course, what men can do, women should be able to do too...).

Leonardo Ricardo said...

Perhaps Bishop Orombi ought address this, yet another, IMPORTED sexually oriented disease! Afterall, it is imported (including the Anglican Church of Uganda) isn´t it? Well, maybe not.

Such silliness, let the gentleman President present ALL HIS LADIES to the Nation (apparently number of wives have nothing to do with ability to serve...well, maybe it´s a validation of his ability to serve)!

StandTall-The Activist said...

What a shame. Well, stuff like this is not hidden in Nigeria. They claim culture, religion or tradition to have as many wives as possible. Our former president Obasanjo had a lot of wives and he decided to chose perhaps the youngest or the most influential as his first lady.

This is a sick practise

spiralx said...

When Mohammed the Islamic prophet decreed only 'x' number of wives per man, it was the WOMEN and not the men who complained, apparently! "What will we do without a man to marry?" was the burning question of the day!

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