Thursday, March 13, 2008

Is it that Bad Being Gay?

Hey, I feel like singing 'Sometimes I feel like whining...

I would realy love an answer to this question. A straight answer.

Why? Why not? I mean, homos are hanged in Iran, and in Egypt, well, you will have to read these two posts.

I am gay, and a human being, but why is it that to some people it is so bad being gay that I am evil? What is it about being gay that is so bad? Or is it with the other person?
Here is one extract of what people realy think. Good Christian, well meaning, straight people.

A Republican member of the Oklahoma Legislature... told a political group that "the homosexual agenda is just destroying this nation" and poses a bigger threat to the U.S. than terrorism or Islam. "I'm not gay-bashing. But according to God's word that is not the right kind of lifestyle," Rep. Sally Kern of Oklahoma City said during an appearance before a group of Republicans.
"Studies show no society that has totally embraced homosexuality has lasted more than a few decades," Kern says in the recorded comments. "It is not a lifestyle that is good for this nation."

In her recorded comments, Kern expressed concern that gay candidates "are winning elections" and control city councils in Arkansas, Maryland and other states.

A former teacher, Kern also said gays are teaching young public school children that their lifestyle is acceptable.

"We're not teaching facts and knowledge anymore. We're teaching indoctrination," Kern said.

"We have the gay-straight alliance coming into our schools. Kids are getting involved in these groups, their lives are being ruined," she said. "They are going after our young children, as young as two years of age, to try to teach them that the homosexual lifestyle is an acceptable lifestyle.

"This stuff is deadly and it's spreading and it will destroy our young people, it will destroy this nation."

This is disturbing stuff. I am gay. And a Ugandan. Besides having to live my life as well as I can, I scarcely believe that people are so convinced of these things that they go out of their way to tell lies which a straight thinking person would not believe. But they do believe them.Why do they tell lies about me? I have asked that of Ssempa, and of Nsaba Buturo, and am yet to get an answer that I can understand. Why do good Christian people justify lies for their hate of me? Yes, I have to find an answer to that question, because I will be able to answer it to understand why I am so much of an object of hate that they fail to see this log in their eyes.

Here is another.

Gay star compared to mass murderer.

Former Steps star Ian "H" Watkins has been told being gay makes him as bad as a mass murderer.

Watkins, from Cwmparc, Rhondda, south Wales, canvassed opinion on gay and lesbian people on the streets of Wales for the Week In Week Out investigation being shown tonight.

He said: "I'm gay, and today I'm completely open about it. But growing up here in the Rhondda, it was a complete nightmare."

Referring to the time he was in Steps, he said: "Despite my success, I couldn't be myself.

"In a pop group like Steps, you need to be three things: single, sexy and straight. I had to lie about the last one."

During filming, he interviewed Stephen Green, director of campaign group Christian Voice, and was told his lifestyle was sinful, making him no better than American serial killer Jeffrey Dahmer.

The comparison to Dahmer came when Watkins told Mr Green he was "so happy" with being gay.

Mr Green also told Watkins he could become straight, quoted from the Bible that being gay is "vile", and promised to pray for him.

When I was doing the round up of the news, i looked for a quote from a priest to cement my ire. Couldnt ask Pastor Ssempa. He has already given me a quote on this blog. A whole letter in fact, so I searched elsewhere

The Roman Catholic Bishop of Motherwell has claimed that the "gay lobby" attends Holocaust memorials "to create for themselves the image of a group of people under persecution."

"The homosexual lobby has been extremely effective in aligning itself with minority groups.

"It is ever present at the service each year for the Holocaust memorial, as if to create for themselves the image of a group of people under persecution."

And to put his criticism into a historical context, here are the facts

Between 5,000 and 15,000 gay men were held in concentration camps by the Nazis as members of an "anti-social group."

Historians estimate that 60% of them died while incarcerated.

After the war gay men were not recognised as victims of the Holocaust and many were re-imprisoned by the authorities because of the sexuality.

They were denied the reparations and state pensions available to other groups

Good Christian people. Hate wrapped in the leaves of prayer. Piously saying, I will pray for you, while they light the firewood of torture beneath my bound feet. Why do they do it?

No, friends. I am not Christian Bashing, as I used to. But why do people who have a religion they say is rooted in love, persecute me with lies that they make up?

Gosh, why am I whining?

Princess and all, yeah, the world is a beautiful place, so I do like it. Sometimes I do find it hard to smile, and things like this do put me down. But of course I have to smile. Shit does happen, and even if it happens because I am gay, it still does happen.

What would not be ok would be for me to forget that it does happen. So, I will talk about it. And still grin and say, have a great evening, because life goes on!

Good evening!



Anonymous said...

You know what bothers me even more than all the prejudice and what not?

It's when people discover that someone is gay, someone they've known all their lives, and then start to treat them differently as though something changed. As though the person they have come to know is suddenly a law breaking monster whose one desire is to indoctrinate their children into a life they would otherwise reject.

Princess said...

Is it a very real worry that because you are gay you will automatically try and turn some straights gay?
Turn them "evil"?
Can a heterosexual be influenced to become bisexual or homosexual?
Are people lying when they say they got into the habit of same-sex relationships and couldn't break it?
I believe that is the root of homophobia...the fear that you will try to recruit.

gayuganda said...

Aw princess.

If it was true that we were some sort of vampire which could turn people, I would gladly embrace it. Imagine, going and biting people like Ssempa and Nsaba Buturo... It would make up for a lot of the harm that they have done to us.

Unfortunately (sighhhhhh), it is not possible. And from what I gather from the scientists, sexual orientation cannot be changed.

Anyway, I was not 'made gay' by someone. I am gay. Pure and simple. Wish it was that simple.

The fear is unfounded. But fear it is. Homophobia is an 'irrational fear' and indeed it is irrational.


Anonymous said...

single, sexy and straight

Only lied about the last one? I thin he lied about being sexy!

The 27th Comrade said...

@Closeted Lesbian: Nicely-put. I just lov' ye. :o) Now I wish you were ... so we could ...
Thing is, you would have more compassion if you were discovered to be a thief who can't control the impulse to steal. Your family would get more-supportive. But there is something about homosexuality that just freaks people the fuck out!

Maybe Princess is right, and it is the fear of recruiting. Or everybody needs to stop expecting the whole world to become hellenist overnight (both camps). Whatevs.

By the way, GUG, I am still crafting that other rant. I'll post it some time.

spiralx said...

There are Christians (and other religonists, including some in Islam) working to include gay people in their religion. There's even the Metropolitan Church, set up specifically for LGBT Christians to worship safely! So it's not all doom and gloom in that department! What we call "the news" tends to focus on the fundamentalists because, well, "good news is no news" (I actually heard a news reporter say that!).

DeTamble said...

Recruit? Sounds like they think Gay people are like Vampires or Zombies. Adding recruits to their every increasing armies. Can I be recruited? Do I get some kind of memento, like a set of fangs?

DeTamble said...

Crap. This was all one post? Way to trip me out. Long Two Titled post.

@the first title:

Why do people constantly insist that the bible is 'the' word of God. It's more a Chinese whispers word of God. None of the people who wrote the bible could know exactly what gody said.

"Studies show no society that has totally embraced homosexuality has lasted more than a few decades"
WHAT? Which society did that? Where? Who? How? Hippo?

LOL teaching kids indoctrination. Yes Children, your generation will all be gay and my university going age group shall all become communist revolutionaries.

People will eventually move forward and get over their homophobia. Remember when bastard children were severely frowned upon? And all unwed mothers had their babies taken from them? Eventually that stopped happening and now not many people care. The same will happen with homophobia and people will be distracted by something else. The liars will still be bitching but no one will care enough to listen.

If I was born 40years ago I would have been taken to an orphanage for being a bastard child. Lucky me.

blackstone said...

hey brother, i mentioned this post on my Carnival of Socialism post. A collection i gathered of recent blog posts about equal rights and liberations.

good note

British Home Secretary Jacqui Smith announced a temporary stay on Madhi's deportation.

gayuganda said...

Thanks blackstone.

On Mahdi, I would have been very suprised if the British govt had not reviewed that ruling. Afterall, they are in a democracy that works. Though the case of the Ghanaian woman who was depoted despite the fact that she had terminal kidney failure shows how humanity can fall through in cracks of bureacracy. But the hullaballoo was considerable. Has worked, at least this time.

Thanks be to the deities for the media...


Unknown said...

the heteroes always say that homosex. are bad and is a bad way of living ,habbit. But they all closed up themself. We do not go out and yell, heteroes are bad, and it is not the right way of living. It is not your business, or hes who i like to fuck in the bedroom.

but should we, go out and tell the world, we gay's are right. you should be one too. NO! Neither have the heteroes the right to go out and yell, that it is the right way of living and so should you.

some people are just plain stupid, it's evolution, i say. Some are way behind, almost still in the stoneage... we sertainlty are not, and i do not mean , new age - all should be gay. What i mean is, accept, respect and be treated the same way.

Anonymous said...

Hetereosexuals cant change their sexualorientation just like gays cant change their sexualorientation. So the homophobes have no reason fear. And having two ppl that are inlove, its just love, how can it be evil? Keeping two loving individuals away from eachother, that's evil.


gayuganda said...

Amen to that, Babyphat


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